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Many people visiting their wills, trusts and estates lawyers in San Diego are unprepared to face the news that their income may drastically change upon the death of their spouse.  Unfortunately, this is something that sneaks up on a lot of San Diego couples who haven’t considered this or discussed it with their will and trust attorney. Although sometimes hidden in our blind spots, it is a no-brainer that paychecks for a working spouse will disappear if they die.  Retired couples often don’t think about this risk, but they should.  For example, the spouses of veterans are often surprised to find that VA benefits can end or be greatly reduced when the veteran passes away. 

VA benefits aren’t the only type of income that can come to a halt in these situations, either.  Union pensions can also stop or be reduced when the union member spouse dies.  Likewise, total Social Security benefits usually drop at the first death.  This is distressing news for those left behind who expected to maintain their lifestyle and to live on these sources of income.  Together, the death of a spouse, a drop in income can be a devastating one-two punch.

This is just one of the many surprises that can be in store when it comes to a surviving spouse’s ability to support him or her self.  The loss of those forms of revenue can be catastrophic. Too often, able bodied seniors, who have been widowed, find themselves being forced to go back to work.  For those who can’t work they often become dependent on government programs, or help from their children, just to get by.

A good San Diego will, trust and estate lawyer will help you to plan for this contingency.  There are several ways that the various forms of income can be replaced, such as through insurance policies and other types of strategic planning.  There are also ways to plan for care expenses to prevent them from consuming the nest egg that may be needed later by the surviving spouse.  The key, of course, is to anticipate these needs in advance so they can be provided for in the estate plan. 

Attorney Independence Makes a Difference 

Unlike commissioned insurance and investment brokers, your estate planning attorney can make recommendations free of any pressure to make a sale and earn a commission. If you let them, your San Diego will, trust and estate planning attorney will help you.  Together with your lawyer you can and should take a hard look at what income you have now and what income you would have if your partner were to die.  You can look critically at what your expenses are now, and what they will be later.  The goal of this type of planning is to develop strategies that work with your current situation in order to protect you, whether you are forced to face this soon or in many years.  Few couples die together at the same time.

This sort of planning isn’t just for the old.  For example, a younger couple might need to consider how to fund a college education for their children if one of them passed.  That couple’s estate planning lawyer could help determine what kinds of structures, products or trusts could be used to make sure the money is there later.  This is a distinct contrast to the likely needs of an older couple.  Each couple working with a competent estate planning attorney will find the best approach is to create a plan that suits their unique circumstance, young or old, with or without children.

Losing a loved one is hard enough without the added financial burden that can come from losing his or her income, too.  Estate planning discussions should include more than who gets Grandma’s china.  It isn’t just about ‘if you die’ it is also about ‘if you live.’ Make sure you discuss all your sources of income with your San Diego estate planning lawyer.   

Chose an estate planning and trust attorney who cares about more than selling you a ‘distribution on death trust’ in single meeting .  Planning is all about life and preparing for life cycle events.  A good legal counselor will get you ready for the bumps and curves that life cycle events present.  If you choose the right estate planning lawyer they will help you get and keep control of your circumstance during your life and after. With a firm grip on your situation and priorities, an estate planning attorney can help you maneuver through the maze of possible solutions to protect you, your spouse and those people and things that are important to you. 

Attorneys Joel Weissler and Damien Snow are available and can be reached at (619) 281-1888.  The Weissler Law Group is based in the Mission Valley area of San Diego and serves clients  throughout San Diego County.

San Diego is a City filled with people on the move.  Some moving in and some moving out.  San Diego trust and estate planning lawyers carry the responsibility to help their clients prepare for life cycle events and plan for the best ways to financially care for their families after their deaths.  Separate from helping clients deal with what life throws at them, an Estate Planning Attorney, must also plan and prepare documents which are compliant with a complex maze of state laws.  This becomes more complicated when more than one state is involved. The laws and rules that apply to wills, trusts, powers of attorney, as well as, marital inheritance rights vary from state to state.  Some differences are minor, while others can impact both trust and planning documents significantly.  Someone who already has established an estate plan including a  trust in one state, needs to know that they should at least review it with an estate planning lawyer when relocating to another state.

For example, if you have created a trust in California, but then move to Florida for retirement, it’s a good idea to meet with a trusts lawyer in your new city.  Likewise, someone moving from somewhere else in the U.S. to San Diego should contact a San Diego trust attorney to review the documents and potentially amend them to satisfy California law.

If someone is incapacitated, or after a death, when a trust is administered, it is usually done under the laws of the state where the person resides or resided.  This can get a little tricky if you have residences in two states—say, if you’re a “sun-bird.”  In those situations, it’s best to work with trusts lawyers in both states.  The changes needed may be as small as changing a little wording, but they could also be more complicated.

There are some estate planning documents that should always be reviewed with an estate planning lawyer when moving to a new state.  Powers of attorney are vital for determining who can act for you if you become incapacitated.  Powers of attorney are administered under state law.  Powers of attorney drawn up by a trust lawyer in Scottsdale may be disregarded by banks, care facilities and hospitals in California.  Unfortunately, different looking documents with different wording may be rejected even if sister-state rules say the documents should be accepted and help from the Courts is always uncertain, slow and expensive.

It is possible to have trusts and other estate planning documents set up in more than one state, though the complexities of doing so are definitely something that should be done with the guidance of a knowledgeable professional with plenty of experience in multi-state planning.

For many, the largest consideration in cross state or multi-state wills and trusts planning is money.  The right trust, done the right way, under the correct state laws, can save you property taxes, income taxes, and an enormous amount of hassle and frustration.  By working with a good trusts and estate attorneys, you can find what structure and documents hold the best benefits for you, your estate, and your heirs. 

If you are new to California, or maintain a part year residence in more than one state, and have questions about what can work in your situation, please give me a call at (619) 281-1888.

 

For some, it’s all about the kids.  A lot of San Diegans only come in to see an estate planning lawyer to figure out how to take care of their kids once they are gone.    For those with minor children, this might revolve around choosing legal guardians, setting up educational trusts, and making sure there is someone to manage any assets left for the kids.  Beyond that, parents never stop being parents.  Parents want to be certain that their deaths don’t disrupt their children’s lives, and most of all, they want to pass on three things to their children:  memories, advantages in life and financial security.  These are good reasons but they skirt around the real reason which is to maintain control over themselves, their children and their assets.

But what about those who don’t have children?  What do those with money and no kids direct their estate planning lawyers to do?

Who Are These People?

According to a recent Gallup Article, 14% of adults over age 45 are without children.  There are quite a lot of adults without children who are doing their estate planning.  As a group, these childfree individuals and couples tend to be more educated and affluent than the general population.  Forty-five and up is a broad group of people – from dual income no kid couples to singles nearing retirement. 

Big Issues

For individuals without children, some estate planning choices can be more difficult.  The vast majority of individuals with children empower their children to act for them in financial and medical decision making if they do not have a spouse to make those decisions for them.  According to a Bloomberg Article by Rich Miller (analyzing Bureau of Labor Statistics data), 50.2% of all Americans over 16 years and older are now single.  If this is true of individuals without children, then that group of over 7% of the populace faces a doubly daunting challenge in choosing who should act for them if they are incapacitated or have died.

Who do you trust?

Younger adults without children may have their parents or siblings available to step in to act, as well as nieces and nephews.  Unfortunately, it is rarely that simple. 

While our national entrepreneurial and tech booms have created a still growing class of younger men and women who have come into money before they’ve had the opportunity to get married and/or start a family, long work hours are leaving them without large circles of close friends outside of work.  This narrows their range of choices.  We are seeing co-workers serve as executors and successor trustees for individual who they barely knew outside of the workplace. This can be an invitation for surviving family members to get bent out of shape.

Older adults without children may find that their best choice of a person or company to act for them may be a professional trustee.  Professional trustees range from Trust Companies with nationwide reach to individuals who are licensed Professional Fiduciaries, Attorneys or CPAs.

Who do you love?

Of course, many of the people described above will want at least a portion of their estate to go to family members.  Aunts and uncles may want to set up college funds for their siblings’ kids or grandkids.  Adult children may want to leave support behind to make sure that Mom and Dad are set for retirement and beyond. 

Young or old, many people seem to be showing an interest in leaving some of their wealth to charitable causes.  Many individuals without children are choosing to leave more than a tithe (10%) of their assets to support their causes or make a difference when they are gone.  San Diego will and trust lawyers sometimes refer to this as “legacy planning.”  Their client identifies a cause that he or she is particularly interested in supporting and then names that cause as a beneficiary in their will, trust or on certain accounts or policies.  A growing approach for public good minded individuals is the use of donor-advised funds.  Funded during lifetime (creating a current charitable deduction), or at death, these alternatives to the foundations created by the very wealthy hold and invest funds to be given to charities selected by the donor immediately or at a later date.  By using a donor advised fund, you can provide for charitable gifts to be made and causes to be supported, long after you are gone.

Planning Early Is Key

The fact that an individual does not have children does not make the need for estate planning any less important.  The California Probate Code has a plan for your assets if you don’t make a plan.  Arguably, men and women without children have more incentive to make their wishes legally binding and known. They cannot just “leave everything to the kids.” 

We all spend a lifetime building our nest eggs.  We don’t want those eggs tossed about without care.  Most individuals want a say in what happens to the money they’ve accumulated over their lifetimes.  Equally importantly, almost everyone wants a say in who can make medical and financial decisions for them in an emergency if they cannot do so for themselves.  There may be charities you want to benefit and there are choices to be made in the best way to support the causes you believe in.  

If you are an adult without children, it is important that you meet with an estate planning attorney.  An estate planning lawyer can create for you the tools and structures needed for you to control your property and insure that your medical treatment wishes are followed. 

When friends ask when they should see an estate planning attorney, I tell them “we all drive on the freeway; we don’t know which day is ours.”  See one before your family needs for you to have seen one.  Attorney Joel Weissler and Attorney Damien Snow can be reached at (619) 281-1888.

 

2015 Annual Tax Free Gifting Limits to Non-Citizen Spouses Change – But Many Will Still Fall Into the Trap

Estate and Gift Tax Basics: 

Our tax code imposes a substantial tax on all transfers of wealth within the United States. Each U.S. Citizen has access to two or three exceptions to this tax regimen.

First, each citizen has a shield from gift and estate taxes which, starting in 2015, will protect up to $5.43 million dollars from transfer tax. This is an increase from 2014 when only $5.34 million was exempt. This is sometimes called the unified exclusion amount because it can be used in whole or in part against either gift taxes during your lifetime or against estate taxes after your death.

There are also category exclusions which exclude certain types or amounts of gifts from being subject to estate tax. These category gifts neither count against your unified exclusion amount nor are they subject to tax. These category gifts include annual gifts. Each U.S. person may make up to $14,000 in current gifts to any person they want without tax. They can also make gifts of this amount or less to as many people as they want, all without tax. A second category are favored direct gifts for the benefit of a person. Under this category, payments made to pay another’s medical bills or educational expenses are not considered gifts.

The third and, perhaps the most generous category, are transfers to spouses. If the recipient spouse is a U.S. Citizen, the donor/giver spouse may give to them any amount without tax. Unfortunately, this unlimited spousal gift exclusion does not apply if the recipient spouse is not a U.S. Citizen. The spousal gift exclusion for gifts to non-citizens goes up next year to $147,000, up from $145,000 for 2014. Any gifts from a U.S. spouse above that amount will chip away at their unified exclusion amount. After that unified exclusion amount is fully consumed, all additional gifts are taxable and of course a gift tax return is required.  With proper planning gifts may be made through a qualified domestic trust and thereby delay when tax is levied until after the non-citizen spouse passes away.  

The biggest surprise tax challenge for non-resident non-citizens is often how to pass their U.S. property onto their children without being walloped with taxes – I will talk about that in a future post.

Buy a Blanket 

In spite of the fact that the Calendar says that it is winter; in Southern California we seldom feel too cold. We forget about the bite of winter experienced in other parts of the country. Last week’s cold bite was a bit of a surprise, a shock to many who scrambled to get out extra blankets, seldom used jackets and turn on the heat. For many others, since this cold wave hit San Diego between Christmas and New Year’s, it became an excuse to celebrate and take a trip up from San Diego to Julian or Idyllwild.

In San Diego it can be easy to treat aging like the seasons. We go on with our lives as if it was endless spring, summer, or autumn and just don’t think about winter. But, sometimes we have to think about it. Based on the calls to my office since Thanksgiving, more and more families are thinking about it after visiting with their parents and grandparents.

Elder Care and Estate Planning are Hard to Think About

Part of thinking about aging and thinking about the hazards and expenses of aging is thinking about hiring an elder law attorney. For Seniors and their families living in San Diego, the choice about whether or not to hire a lawyer for estate and elder law planning is not one to be taken lightly. Unfortunately, going to an attorney for a will or trust, for Veteran’s in home care benefits planning, or to protect a family’s nest-egg against possible future nursing home expenses, is a topic that can cause a lot of anxiety both for the senior and for his or her adult children. There are a number of reasons that it’s an uncomfortable topic. 

Of course, the most obvious is that the need for an elder lawyer brings up the topic of the senior’s mortality. An attorney can be brought in for many reasons, one of which is estate planning. And with estate planning comes the reality that each of our lives will come to an end. This can be especially distressing to an elderly person, but can be even more disturbing for their family members and friends.

Facing a Change in Seasons

Another reason that seniors and their families in San Diego find themselves wanting to work with an elder lawyer is because the senior is beginning to make decisions that are not in his or her best interest. No one wants to tell Mom or Dad that it might be time to stop driving, that they shouldn’t have control over their finances, or that it’s time to consider moving to a nursing home. When an elder lawyer comes into play, it’s often to address these exact topics.

We all need to Prepare for Winter 

The conversation can be softened a bit with different approaches. One common one is for the adult child to talk about others who have had a hard time because they, their spouse or their parents didn’t have proper powers of attorney or healthcare advance directives in place. The best way for anyone to make certain that their wishes are followed if they are incapacitated is to take control ahead of time. Each of us can take control ahead of time only by choosing who will be our voice and what they will say for us, by giving them specific written instructions.

One of the things that often brings people to an elder law lawyer is the realization that a senior is starting to decline in health. This could be physically, mentally, or both. Sometimes this realization comes about when family members see that one of their parents is exhausted from taking care of the other. This often opens the door to talking about getting help and paying for help. Elder law attorneys are experienced in helping families find and afford care while protecting their assets.

Of course, it is always better to work on a long-term plan before ill health becomes an issue, but if your family has waited, there are still a lot of options available. Most Seniors want to make plans and not merely have plans made for them. Once the issue of planning has been brought up, many Seniors can be motivated to move forward and plan - so that the plan for them, is their own plan, – not their children’s plan or anything else. The better a senior’s health, the more say that he or she can have in devising a plan. Planning earlier, while in better health, makes available more options.

Plan to Prevent Conflict

Planning to protect against the challenges of aging is often a full family affair. It is usually, but not always, a good idea for adult children and sometimes siblings to be included in the planning process. Seniors who have included their families in their attorney client planning meetings are more likely to follow through. Follow through usually gives the best results. More importantly, keeping family members in the loop can help to reduce friction later because everyone is aware of the plan and knows how it will be enacted. If there are concerned parties that aren’t available, I strongly recommend that they are communicated with for the same reason.

If there is disagreement among a senior’s adult children, it may be in everyone’s best interest to bring in a third party. In addition to using a San Diego elder law attorney to address these issues, there are geriatric care managers and mediators who are trained in how to refocus everyone on the true goals of the plan, rather than letting things break down and become a grudge match rehashing wrongs and perceived wrongs which may be decades old.
Just as we talk about spring as the time for cleaning, January is a time for putting things in order and making plans.

New Year's Resolution 

Like northerners clearing snow in winter, as long as it falls, you keep shoveling until the driveway is cleared and stays cleared. Spending a little time with a San Diego elder law lawyer now, making a plan, and putting your affairs in order, can make a world of difference down the road. 

 Estate Planning is About You, but Not Just About You!

Like Elder law where getting the care you need is balanced against preserving assets for your family, every San Diego estate planning attorney’s goals are split when doing estate planning.  Although estate planning lawyers must first and primarily focus on estate planning to satisfy their clients and help them maintain control during their lifetimes, in the long run, a lot of estate planning is focused on those who are left behind.  In creating an estate plan that disperses your assets in the way you want, you are creating a legacy and supporting your family, friends, or favorite causes for their own futures.  It’s a noble and wonderful thing to do.  It can also be kind of complicated for those who are left behind.  Properly using an experienced estate planning attorney can reduce these complications - but you need help them make it easier for your survivors.

It’s likely that when you pass away, your family will be dealing with their own grief, in addition to the legal aspects of inheritance.  It’s a difficult time.  One of the ways that estate planning lawyers know of limiting confusion and difficulties is to create an organized plan for getting everyone the information they need.

For most people, important information is kept in a variety of places.  Some might be on your computer, some in the filing cabinet, and still more in a safe deposit box.  Any estate planning lawyer you use in San Diego should also be retaining information that beneficiaries will need to access.  At the Weissler Law Group, and a small number of other experienced law firms, your information is also preserved electronically for easier and quicker access.

With all that in mind, would your family know where to find everything?   There’s a pretty good chance they would not.  I’ve recently been involved in the administration of the estate of a brilliant and wonderful man.  It is amazing, the hundreds of hours that have been required to track things down.  After more than a year, we are still looking.  He never took the time to put in place a map for his family. 

You can help take away worry and frustration by getting things organized, and your lawyer can help you figure out how.

Make a List

A fairly easy approach is to start creating an inventory of your important documents.  Make a list of the important things your family, friends, or lawyer would need to know—not just in case of death, but also if you were to become medically incapacitated.  In addition to listing these items, you should also make sure to note where they are located and include any contact information needed to access them.  For example, include information for your estate planning lawyer, doctors, insurance agents, etc.  Some of the things your list should detail might be:

 

• Will

• Living trust

• Health care documents

• Powers of attorney

• Medications you take

• Accountant

• Insurance agents

• Financial planner

• Insurance policies

• Bank statements

• Stocks, bonds, and other investments

• Deeds and titles to property

• Information on safe deposit boxes (and keys to them)

• Storage facilities

• List of assets

• Debts

• Information on money owed to you

• Benefits

• Tax returns

Additionally, it’s helpful to create a list of all of your online accounts—whether social media or financial—along with your login information and passwords.

None of this information will be useful if no one knows it exists, so be sure that you have told a trusted person how and where to find the inventory.  Most estate planning attorneys in San Diego will advise you to keep originals in a safe deposit box or fireproof safe with copies or even just notes in a binder that can be accessed by the person you’ve designated in case of emergency.  Committed and caring estate planning attorneys will accept a copy of your list and inventory and preserve this critical information for your family.

While there’s no doubt that creating this inventory is a time consuming process, keep in mind that if it’s hard for you, it will be considerably harder for someone who is not you!  Once it’s all together, though, your estate planning lawyer can tell you that it becomes much easier to simply update it when changes are needed.

I hope that the information I have shared here, helps you, and those your care about.

 

The words “wills”, “trusts,” “estates,” and “health care directives” mean to you? Do you envision useful tools which help you protect your family and your wishes if death or incapacity strikes? Or do you brush off these terms believing they are only important for the super-rich or elderly? October 19th-25th marks National Estate Planning Awareness Week, which is a key reminder of just how important estate planning is for everyone. Whether you are a 20-something new parent just starting out, a wealthy entrepreneur or a senior citizen relying on others for long-term care, estate planning provides a solid legal foundation for protecting your family, your financial security, your wishes and your independence through all of life’s transitions. 
Let’s take a look at:

Your Family: If you have minor children, estate planning allows you to appoint the people you want to raise them in the event of your unexpected death or incapacity. Using trusts, you can protect minor children, and even adult children, who may not be prepared to receive a large sum of money after you die. Tools such as health care directives and powers of attorney can make it easier for your family to manage your medical and financial affairs during a health care crisis. Not to mention, estate planning can help shield your loved ones from unnecessary court/legal fees, taxes, strife and family feuds during an emotional time of crisis or loss.
Your Finances- Whether you have a billion-dollar estate or a simple home and a modest savings account, estate planning can help ensure more of your money goes to your family and not the government after your passing. Proper estate planning can also help senior citizens and baby boomers qualify for Medicaid and additional VA Pension Benefits for health care without becoming impoverished or “spending down” everything they own. Many professionals such as physicians and contractors also look to estate planning to shield their personal assets from lawsuits, creditors and other risks associated with their occupations.
Your wishes- Do you have assets you wish to leave to certain people? Are you in a non-traditional relationship or blended family and want to ensure your loved ones are taken care of and share in your inheritance after you are gone? Is there someone you trust to make important medical or financial decisions on your behalf if you are unable to do so? Without an estate plan in place, all of these personal decisions will be made by the courts if the unthinkable happens. This is why estate planning is such an important strategy in making sure your wishes are known and honored if tragedy strikes.

Your Independence- With a solid estate plan in place, you no longer have to fear aging and whether or not you’ll become a burden to your kids during the golden years. Instead, tools such as living trusts, powers of attorneys, insurance policies and health care directives can help you fund your future care needs and carefully design the life and independence you wish to enjoy during your later years.  Advanced estate planning techniques to protect assets from long term care costs are also available - if you act in time.

Be More Than Aware—Take ACTION!

While National Estate Planning Awareness Week is a wonderful observance to help more people become aware of estate planning and its role in helping you protect your financial future and the people you love— the information is useless if you don’t take action!

Estate planning is one of those time-sensitive and critical tasks which must be taken care of as soon as possible. If an unexpected illness or accident happens, you may find many of the planning options once available to you are suddenly gone and your hard-earned money will be exposed to the government, creditors and medical facilities during a crisis. 

Instead, be proactive and get your affairs in order while you are still healthy, of sound mind and have the opportunity to make your wishes known.  There's no greater peace of mind knowing that your assets and loved ones will be protected, no matter what happens. 

For anyone who sets an appointment to either create a new plan or update an old one, mentions this posting and has us do legal work on their estate plan for them, we will donate $50 to either the Alzheimer's Association's San Diego Chapter or Meals on Wheels.. 

Lauren Bacall who passed away August 12, 2014 took care of her Papillon Sophie as the first item in her will.
Bacall, whose will made public Friday when it was filed with the Manhattan Surrogate’s Court, wasn’t crazy. She left $10,000 to her son subject to a legal obligation that he hold and manage the $10,000 for the care of her faithful and loving dog. She left $250,000 in trust for each to her Grandchildren.  Her Grandkids can use the money towards their college education, but otherwise won't receive any of it until they are 30 years old.  Bacall, who was once married to Jason Robards, Jr. and then later to Humphrey Bogart, left the bulk of her 26.6 million dollar fortune in equal shares to her children - Sam Prideaux Robards, Stephen Humphrey Bogart and Leslie Bogart.

To many faithful pets are destroyed when their owners can no longer take care of them. Who will care for your dog or cat when you pass away? What will happen to your bird if you become incapacitated? For many people, providing care for their pet after they pass away or if they become incapacitated is a very big concern. In reaction to pet owner concerns, most states (including California) have statutes that provide for the enforcement of trusts created for the benefit of pets.

Unlike your children or other relatives or friends that you may leave money to via your last will and testament, an animal cannot be a beneficiary of your will. Pet owners, instead of naming the pet as beneficiary, must designate someone to take care of their pet after they die and they can then leave money to that person or place in the hands of another to pay for the cost of providing care.

Prior to specific statutes which allow for the creation of an enforceable “pet trust,” if an individual left money to a family member or friend in their last will and testament stating in the document that the bequest was solely for the purpose of caring for their pet, the family member or friend would be under no legal obligation to spend the money on their pet. In fact, they could take the pet to the pound and keep the money for themselves if they chose to do so. Any money left in a last will and testament to an individual “for the care of a pet” was often treated as merely a request and unenforceable in a court of law.

While many might say, “I trust my brother with my dog and I know he would take care of him”- what happens if your brother’s son becomes allergic to your dog? Or, what happens if your brother moves into an apartment complex that won’t allow pets? A pet trust can provide direction regarding any of the unforeseen circumstances that may arise.

Setting up a trust for your pet is much like setting one up for a person. The trust is a legal entity into which you put money and then designate a trustee who is responsible to safeguard and administer the money. In the case of a pet trust, you designate a caregiver and then the trustee is in charge of making payments to the caregiver for your pet’s expenses (special dietary needs, grooming, pet toys, veterinary care, etc.). Of course, it is always a good idea to name one or more alternate trustees and caregivers in the event something should happen to them. In addition, a provision of the trust will need to provide for what happens to the money you have set aside for your pet after their death. Many people chose to have the remaining balance go to the caregiver or a charitable organization.

It is important to keep your trust up to date with current information and to ensure nothing has changed in your designated caregiver’s situation that might warrant changing designees (are they still willing to take on the commitment, can they still physically handle the responsibility, etc.). It is also a good idea to give a copy of the trust to your chosen caregiver, any successor(s) and family members who may be involved with the care of your pet.

Creating a trust for your pet is not just for the wealthy or the eccentric. It is a relatively inexpensive and practical way to ensure you have provided for your pet when you can no longer do so because of death or incapacity.

We at the Weissler Law Group are pet people and are experienced in creating trusts for pets involving small to large amounts of money. We can be reached at (619) 281-1888,

As a San Diego trust and estate lawyer I help all sorts of people deal with the subject no one wants to talk about—what happens after you grow old and when you die. After your death, when your loved ones are grieving, it can be hard to devote proper time and energy to the details of your funeral and post-mortem affairs. If you plan some of this in advance, your children can be certain to respect your wishes, while having the time they need to grieve. 

One important issue to discuss with your children is how you want your body to be handled after death. Do you want to be cremated or buried? Do you want a large headstone, or something simple? If you are cremated, do you want to be in an urn or interred at a cemetery? Would you like a religious service, and if so, what kind? It may seem obvious to you what you would like, but sometimes your children may not know, and may end up fighting at a time they should be coming together to mourn. For a substantial percentage of San Diegans their religious faith plays a factor in what final arrangements they feel are ‘right’ for them.

Many people pre-pay their funeral expenses, so it is important to let your children know if you have. Speaking with other Estate Planning Attorneys in San Diego about what is called "pre-need" planning, I have been amazed.  I have been amazed at how many of us have witnessed times where there was a plot paid for, but the children didn’t know, and so paid for another!

What about your obituary? Trust and Estate lawyers in San Diego regularly see cases where relatives are angry because the children got details wrong in their parent’s obituary listing. If you pre-write your own obituary, you can make sure that all of the details are correct, and that it says precisely what you want it to. It can be humorous, serious, or a little of both; if you write it, you control the message.

Planning for final disposition of your remains and putting together your own obituary will lift an enormous burden from your family’s shoulders.

Have you written a will? You’d be surprised by how many fights happen once a parent passes away. If you want your mother’s china to go to one child and your father’s tools to go to another, be sure to put this in writing. Better yet, have your children over to talk about what each one may want when you are gone. It’s awkward, yes, but by finding this out and detailing it in your will, you can save a lot of fighting after the funeral. The inheritance you want to avoid leaving is a legacy of creating conflict between your children.

In California we urge our client’s to go beyond having a simple will. Here, wills are only instructions to the Probate Court on how you wish your assets to be distributed after you die. If an individual here in San Diego dies directly owning real estate or more than $150,000 in total assets a probate is almost always required unless action to side step the probate process is taken. Probate is expensive and slow. For most families the best way to side step probate is by having a living trust. A living trust can also protect your family from needing to establish a conservatorship over you if at some time are not able to make decisions for yourself.

Creating a will and if appropriate a trust will lift an enormous burden from your family, reduce or eliminate the headache of going to court and with a small bit of luck, reduce the chances of your surviving family member fighting with each other.

What about an advance directive for healthcare decisions? Creating this document, which has evolved from living wills, is one of the best uses of an estate planning lawyer. You need to have, in writing, what you would like to happen in the event that you are ill. The more you customize this document the more you take the burden of these decisions off of your family. Do you want to be resuscitated? How much intervention do you want? Do you want to be left on life support? Fights over this can divide a family. It did mine. Knowing in advance what you want, and giving your wishes force by setting them down in a legal document, will make things so much easier for your family. It will make it easier for them when you are otherwise unable to tell them what you want – or don’t want.

What about long term care? Some Estate Planning and Trust Attorneys, like those in our office have additional training to help clients protect their assets from long term care expenses. Attorneys with this extra training can help you put in place structures to make certain you can get the care you may need, at home or elsewhere.  It surprises to many families who don't find out until everything is gone that these elder law techniques can at the same time preserve your assets for either your spouse or to help your children be more secure or even live better lives when you are gone.

Part of every estate planning and trust attorney’s job is to make things smoother and easier for our clients, their spouses and children. In order to make this happen, however, you need to be sure that they know what your wishes are for your funeral, for your assets, and for your body in ill health. By writing all of this down ahead of time, you can save everyone grief at a time when they need the space to mourn.

For more information and help in providing for a disabled family member, call the Weissler Law Group at (619) 281-1888 to set a time to speak with an attorney with the answers and advise you need.

Parenting isn’t always easy, and it’s even less so when your child has a disability. We all have dreams of our children reaching full independence, but sometimes, this just isn’t possible. Our children may have needs that go beyond what others require, special needs that demand specific planning in order to make sure that the child is well looked after once the parents are gone.

In a nutshell, special needs planning in San Diego is the legal and financial plan to take care of a child, often an adult child, whose disabilities require that they have scaffolding in place to live a full, healthy life. These children may have physical, mental, or both types of needs that require additional care. As adults, these children may not be able to live on their own or gain employment, for example, and will need a comprehensive plan in place to assure a secure future.

Special needs planning is something every parent of a child with disabilities must individually consider, as a “one-size-fits-all” approach is not likely to work. Public benefits preservation may or may not be a critical part of the plan for any particular person with disabilities. For others, establishing or preserving access to some of the unique services available only through public programs is essential. For example, a child may be in a wheelchair, but otherwise able to care for him or herself. This child may have great prospects, and as such, the plan may be relatively simple. There will be no need, say, for a conservatorship of this adult child, as he or she is mentally fit to handle his or her own affairs and should be able to find gainful employment.

In other cases, however, the child may not be able to handle all of the details of adult life. Securing safe housing, paying bills, finding employment, and other needs may be beyond the scope of the child’s capabilities. In cases like these, an estate planning attorney with experience planning in special needs planning can help the parents to formally define who will have control over the child’s assets and freedoms once the parents have passed away. A plan can also be put into place to safeguard a trust fund for the child to ensure a high quality of life. These plans utilizing what are know as supplemental needs trusts or special needs trusts can be designed with checks and balances to insure that the disabled child is protected and which reduce the burdens on other family members.
Another important aspect of special needs planning is determining the transition plan once the child reaches adulthood. Some adults with special needs remain with their families; others move into group housing for adults who need extra care, others can live independently with assistance. Any one of these choices may be right for your family, but determining what the future will hold for your child, and who gets to “call the shots” when you are gone, is a critical component of special needs planning.

An experienced estate planning attorney can also help assist you in determining exactly what your child may need in the future to ensure proper quality of care. Likewise, by formalizing the details of who will have responsibility for your child and how their finances will be maintained, you can eliminate a lot of stress after you have passed away. In some families everyone is too busy or scattered to be interested in helping; other families have people lining up to take care of their disabled family member, but either way, having these details determined in advance is your best bet for taking care of your special needs child over the long haul.

We, at the Weissler Law Group, are experienced in working with parents and siblings of individuals with special needs.  We are located in San Diego, California, close to Mission Valley Mall and Qualcomm Stadium.  Our goal is to help you help your family member get the help they needed to live well while minimizing the efforts required of other family members. Every week we work with families to preserve assets so that they can be used to improve family member’s quality of life instead of being dissipated by expense which could otherwise be paid for by public entitlement and benefit programs. For more information and help in providing for a disabled family member, call the Weissler Law Group at (619) 281-1888 to set a time to speak with an attorney with the answers and advise you need.